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A5 terms

• ACE Short for asexual. An identity for someone who feels little to no sexual attraction. It's a whole spectrum, not just a switch that's flipped 'off'. I… Identity & Community
• ACT-UP AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power. Not just some historical footnote; these are the activists who literally fought for their lives during the AIDS cris… Identity & Community
• Aegosexual A subset of asexuality where a person can enjoy the idea of sex, consuming erotic content, or having fantasies, but feels a total disconnect from bei… Identity & Community
• Asexual Someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction to anyone. It is a spectrum (Ace-spec) that includes identities like demisexual and graysexual. Identity & Community
• Autosexual You are your own primary object of affection and sexual desire. It's more than just enjoying masturbation; it's a genuine preference for oneself over… Identity & Community

B5 terms

• BDSM The big, scary-sounding acronym that’s really just a catch-all for a whole universe of kink. It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submissi… Kink & BDSM
• Bear Rugged, confident men who embrace size, body hair, and warmth. Bears embody relaxed masculinity and a grounded sensuality. Identity & Community
• BI Bisexual. Attracted to more than one gender. No, they're not just 'confused' or 'greedy'. Bisexuality is a valid identity that often gets erased or m… Identity & Community
• Bicurious For someone, usually identifying as straight, who is curious about dipping a toe into the queer dating or sex pool. It can be a genuine step in a jou… Identity & Community
• BLM Black Lives Matter. More than just a hashtag, it’s a global movement demanding justice and fighting systemic racism. In the queer community, it’s a n… Identity & Community

C2 terms

• Chaser Men who admire and desire bigger or hairier partners, often part of bear and chub scenes. The key is respect, not fetish. Identity & Community
• CIS Cisgender. The term for people whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth. Basically, not transgender. It's a necessary piece… Identity & Community

D2 terms

• Demisexual A person on the ace spectrum who only develops sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond has been formed. The bond comes first, then the attrac… Identity & Community
• Dyke Originally a derogatory slur for a masculine or butch lesbian, this word has been powerfully reclaimed by the community as a term of pride and identi… Identity & Community

E1 term

• EXE Experienced. Often used in BDSM contexts to signal that someone isn't a newcomer. An EXE Dom or Sub knows their way around the scene, understands neg… Kink & BDSM

F1 term

• Furry A subculture interested in anthropomorphic animals (animals with human characteristics). This can involve art, online roleplay, or "fursuiting" (wear… Identity & Culture

G3 terms

• Gay Someone attracted to the same gender. A core identity with a rich history of community, culture, and activism. Identity & Community
• GR Grindr. The infamous geosocial networking app that revolutionized gay hookup culture. It’s a chaotic marketplace of torsos, Stats, and unsolicited Pi… Slang & Culture
• Group scenes Scenes with multiple players — may involve watching, assisting, or rotating roles. Requires negotiation and structure. Community

H1 term

• Homosexual The clinical, slightly archaic term for someone attracted to the same gender. It has a scientific "specimen" vibe that most people have ditched in fa… Identity & Community

I1 term

• IR Interracial. A term for relationships or sexual encounters between people of different racial backgrounds. In the queer community, this often interse… Sex & Relationships

L3 terms

• Lesbian A woman who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to other women. A core identity with a rich history of community, culture, and activism. Identity & Community
• LGBTI Acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, and intersex people. Culture & Concepts
• LTR Long-Term Relationship. The unicorn of the dating app world. Putting this in your bio is a bold declaration that you’re not just looking for a NSA ho… Sex & Relationships

M1 term

• MSM Men Who Have Sex with Men. A clinical term used in public health to describe a behavioral category, regardless of how someone identifies. It's useful… Health & Safety

O1 term

• Otter Lean and hairy men with a playful spark—otters blend the sensuality of bears with an agile, flirty energy. Identity & Community

P5 terms

• Pansexual Attraction to people regardless of their gender. Often described as being attracted to "hearts, not parts," it emphasizes a person's identity over th… Identity & Community
• POLY Polyamorous. The practice of having multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involv… Sex & Relationships
• POS HIV-Positive. A statement of one's HIV status. In the modern era, being POS is not a scarlet letter. Thanks to effective treatment, it's a manageable… Health & Safety
• Pride events Annual demonstrations and celebrations against LGBTIphobia and for LGBTI rights, held worldwide. Culture & Concepts
• Pup Playful men who embody loyalty and energy through pup play or affectionate submission. It’s all about joy and pack vibes. Identity & Community

Q3 terms

• QPOC Queer Person of Color. An identity term that specifically highlights the intersection of being both queer and a person of color. It's a term of solid… Identity & Community
• QPP Queerplatonic Partner. A relationship that blurs the lines between intense friendship and romantic partnership. A QPP involves a deep, committed bond… Sex & Relationships
• Queer The ultimate reclaimed umbrella term. Once a vicious slur, "queer" has been embraced as a defiant, political, and inclusive identity for anyone who i… Identity & Community

T1 term

• TGNC Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming. An inclusive umbrella term that covers both transgender people and anyone else who doesn't conform to traditio… Identity & Community