KinkFactor Dictionary
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A living glossary for queer language, consent culture and kink vocabulary. Search it, browse it by letter, or dive into a topic.
#2 terms
- 420 The universal code for being cannabis-friendly. If you see this on a profile, it means they're probably down to burn one before, during, or after. It… Health & Safety
- 69 The classic yin-yang of oral pleasure. It’s the act of giving and receiving a BJ at the same time, a delicate balancing act of mutual satisfaction. S… Sex & Relationships
A2 terms
- ASAP As Soon As Possible. The universal signal for urgency, especially on hookup apps. When someone says they're looking ASAP, they mean they want you in… Slang & Culture
- ASL Age, Sex, Location. The holy trinity of old-school internet cruising. Before Grindr profiles laid it all out, you had to ask. It’s the quick and dirt… Slang & Culture
B2 terms
- BJ Blow Job. The cornerstone of non-procreative sex. If you don't know what this is, you've probably stumbled into the wrong corner of the internet. It'… Sex & Relationships
- BTM Bottom. The partner who takes the receiving role in anal sex. It's not about being weak or passive; a Power Bottom can run the whole show from below.… Sex & Relationships
C1 term
D2 terms
- DDF Drug and Disease-Free. A common, if somewhat naive, statement on dating profiles. It's meant to signal a preference for sober sex and a clean bill of… Health & Safety
- DTF Down To Fuck. The three letters that cut through all the bullshit. This isn't about finding an LTR; it's the primal signal that someone is looking fo… Sex & Relationships
F4 terms
- F2F Face to Face. The moment of truth when you finally meet someone from the apps IRL (In Real Life). It's the transition from disembodied chat to an act… Sex & Relationships
- Fraysexual The polar opposite of a demisexual. This is someone who feels an initial sexual spark with strangers or new acquaintances, but it fades away as soon… Identity & Community
- FT FaceTime. The pre-date screening process. A quick FT call can confirm that the person you're talking to isn't a Catfish and that you can actually hol… Slang & Culture
- FWB Friends with Benefits. The messy, beautiful, and often complicated space between friendship and a relationship. You hang out, you trust each other, a… Sex & Relationships
G3 terms
- GGG Good, Giving, and Game. A concept popularized by sex columnist Dan Savage. It's the ideal attitude for a sexual partner: be good at it, be generous w… Sex & relationships
- GR Grindr. The infamous geosocial networking app that revolutionized gay hookup culture. It’s a chaotic marketplace of torsos, Stats, and unsolicited Pi… Slang & Culture
- Graysexual Inhabiting the "gray area" on the Asexual spectrum. A graysexual person might feel sexual attraction very rarely, only under specific circumstances,… Identity & Community
H1 term
I2 terms
- IC Incall. The opposite of Outcall. It means the sex worker or host is providing the location, and you have to travel to them. Sex & Relationships
- IR Interracial. A term for relationships or sexual encounters between people of different racial backgrounds. In the queer community, this often interse… Sex & Relationships
L3 terms
- LDR Long-Distance Relationship. A relationship where the partners live far apart. It's a challenge of trust, communication, and expensive plane tickets.… Sex & Relationships
- LFG Looking for Group. A term borrowed from the gaming world (Gaymer) that has been adapted for seeking a group sex scenario. It's a less direct way of s… Sex & Relationships
- LTR Long-Term Relationship. The unicorn of the dating app world. Putting this in your bio is a bold declaration that you’re not just looking for a NSA ho… Sex & Relationships
M2 terms
- M4M Men for Men. A classification used in personal ads and on some apps to specify that you are a man seeking another man. A basic, functional tag from t… Sex & Relationships
- Monosexual An umbrella term for anyone who is only attracted to one gender. This includes people who identify as straight, gay, or lesbian. Identity & Community
N3 terms
- NEG HIV-Negative. A statement of one's HIV status. While important, the simple NEG or POS binary is being complicated by concepts like U=U and the widesp… Health & Safety
- NPNC No Pic, No Chat. A hard-and-fast rule on dating apps for people who are tired of talking to blank, anonymous profiles. It's a demand for basic transp… Slang & Culture
- NSA No Strings Attached. The quintessential agreement for modern casual sex. It means you’re here for a good time, not a long time. There's no expectatio… Sex & Relationships
P3 terms
- PIC Picture. The currency of dating apps. 'Send Pic?' is the inevitable question. This can range from a face pic to a full-blown nude. The exchange of pi… Slang & Culture
- POLY Polyamorous. The practice of having multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involv… Sex & Relationships
- POS HIV-Positive. A statement of one's HIV status. In the modern era, being POS is not a scarlet letter. Thanks to effective treatment, it's a manageable… Health & Safety
R2 terms
- RL Real Life. The world beyond the screen. The ultimate goal of most online interactions is to eventually take things to the RL. Slang & Culture
- RN Right Now. The even more urgent version of ASAP. If someone is looking RN, they are likely already naked and waiting for you to give them an ETA. Slang & Culture
S2 terms
- Sapphic A beautifully poetic umbrella term for women who are attracted to other women, be they lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual. Named after the poet Sappho. Identity & Community
- SO Significant Other. A gender-neutral term for a committed partner. It's a slightly more formal, grown-up way of talking about your boyfriend, girlfrie… Sex & Relationships
V2 terms
- VERS Versatile. The holy grail of the gay dating pool. A Vers guy is comfortable being either a Top or a Bottom, and sometimes even switching within the s… Sex & Relationships
- VGL Very Good Looking. A classic personal ad abbreviation. It's a subjective but direct way of stating your perceived level of attractiveness or what you… Sex & Relationships