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A10 terms

• Abrosexual Describes a sexuality that is fluid and changes over time. One week you might be a lesbian, the next you might be asexual, the next pansexual. Identity & Community
• ACE Short for asexual. An identity for someone who feels little to no sexual attraction. It's a whole spectrum, not just a switch that's flipped 'off'. I… Identity & Community
• Aceflux An orientation where your position on the asexual spectrum fluctuates. Some days you might feel completely asexual, other days more demisexual or gra… Identity & Community
• Aegosexual A subset of asexuality where a person can enjoy the idea of sex, consuming erotic content, or having fantasies, but feels a total disconnect from bei… Identity & Community
• AFAB A clinical, yet necessary, term to describe the sex you were labeled with when you were born. It's a crucial piece of language in trans and Non-Binar… Identity & Community
• AKA Also Known As. In the digital wilderness of dating apps, this is your cue that someone's got an alter ego. Maybe it's their drag name, their online h… Slang & Culture
• AMAB The counterpart to AFAB, this is the label slapped on you at birth based on your genitals. For trans women, Non-Binary folks, and anyone who doesn't… Identity & Community
• Androsexual Describes attraction to men, masculinity, or male anatomy, regardless of whether the person you're attracted to identifies as a man. Identity & Community
• Asexual Someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction to anyone. It is a spectrum (Ace-spec) that includes identities like demisexual and graysexual. Identity & Community
• Autosexual You are your own primary object of affection and sexual desire. It's more than just enjoying masturbation; it's a genuine preference for oneself over… Identity & Community

B5 terms

• BI Bisexual. Attracted to more than one gender. No, they're not just 'confused' or 'greedy'. Bisexuality is a valid identity that often gets erased or m… Identity & Community
• Bicurious For someone, usually identifying as straight, who is curious about dipping a toe into the queer dating or sex pool. It can be a genuine step in a jou… Identity & Community
• Bisexual A person who is emotionally and/or sexually attracted to persons of more than one gender. Identity
• Bisexual Attraction to more than one gender. Historically defined as attraction to both men and women, it's a core identity on the multisexual spectrum. Identity & Community
• Butches A term from lesbian culture for a person (usually a woman or non-binary person) who presents with a masculine identity or expression. It is a core pa… Identity & Culture

C4 terms

• CD Cross-Dresser. Someone who wears clothing typically associated with a different gender. This is about gender expression, not identity or sexuality. I… Identity & Community
• CIS Cisgender. The term for people whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth. Basically, not transgender. It's a necessary piece… Identity & Community
• Cisgender A person whose gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth; i.e., not trans. Identity
• Coming-out The process of revealing one’s identity as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, or intersex. Culture & Concepts

D2 terms

• Demisexual A person on the ace spectrum who only develops sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond has been formed. The bond comes first, then the attrac… Identity & Community
• Dyke Originally a derogatory slur for a masculine or butch lesbian, this word has been powerfully reclaimed by the community as a term of pride and identi… Identity & Community

F3 terms

• Fraysexual The polar opposite of a demisexual. This is someone who feels an initial sexual spark with strangers or new acquaintances, but it fades away as soon… Identity & Community
• FTM Female to Male. The counterpart to MTF, this term describes a transgender man who was assigned female at birth and is transitioning to a male identit… Identity & Community
• Furry A subculture interested in anthropomorphic animals (animals with human characteristics). This can involve art, online roleplay, or "fursuiting" (wear… Identity & Culture

G9 terms

• Gay A person sexually and/or emotionally attracted to people of the same gender. Traditionally used for men, but some people of multiple/same-gender attr… Identity
• Gay Someone attracted to the same gender. A core identity with a rich history of community, culture, and activism. Identity & Community
• Gender A social construct assigning cultural and social expectations based on assigned sex. Core Concepts
• Gender expression How a person manifests gender to others (e.g., dress, speech, mannerisms). May or may not align with identity or assigned sex at birth. Core Concepts
• Gender identity Each person’s deeply felt internal experience of gender, which may or may not correspond to sex assigned at birth and may involve personal body-relat… Core Concepts
• Gender non-conforming Gender expressions other than strictly male or female; outside traditional binary norms. Identity
• GNC Gender Non-Conforming. An umbrella term for people who don't follow society's stereotypes about how they should look, act, or dress based on their ge… Identity & Community
• Graysexual Inhabiting the "gray area" on the Asexual spectrum. A graysexual person might feel sexual attraction very rarely, only under specific circumstances,… Identity & Community
• Gynesexual The counterpart to androsexual. Describes attraction to women, femininity, or female anatomy, regardless of whether the person you're attracted to id… Identity & Community

H5 terms

• Heteroflexible Mostly straight. A label for someone who primarily dates the opposite gender but is open to the occasional same-gender fun or connection. Identity & Community
• Heterosexual A person who identifies as a man attracted only to women, or a person who identifies as a woman attracted only to men. Identity
• Homoflexible Mostly gay. The flip side of heteroflexible. You're primarily into the same gender, but you don't rule out the possibility of an opposite-gender conn… Identity & Community
• Homosexual Classification based on the gender of one’s partners being the same as one’s own. Recommended to use “lesbian” and “gay” instead, as these are more n… Identity
• Homosexual The clinical, slightly archaic term for someone attracted to the same gender. It has a scientific "specimen" vibe that most people have ditched in fa… Identity & Community

I1 term

• Intersex People born with sex characteristics (anatomy, hormones, chromosomes, etc.) that do not fit typical definitions of male or female. “Intersex” is an u… Identity

L3 terms

• Lesbian A woman who is sexually and/or emotionally attracted to women. Identity
• Lesbian A woman who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to other women. A core identity with a rich history of community, culture, and activism. Identity & Community
• LGBTI Acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, and intersex people. Culture & Concepts

M4 terms

• Masc-on-masc dominance Erotic energy rooted in competitive or mirrored masculinity — power struggle without feminization. Power exchange
• Monosexual An umbrella term for anyone who is only attracted to one gender. This includes people who identify as straight, gay, or lesbian. Identity & Community
• MSM Men Who Have Sex with Men. A clinical term used in public health to describe a behavioral category, regardless of how someone identifies. It's useful… Health & Safety
• MTF Male to Female. A term used to describe a transgender woman who was assigned male at birth and is transitioning to a female identity. It's a slightly… Identity & Community

N1 term

• Non-binary Gender identities that are not exclusively male or female. Identity

O4 terms

• Objectumsexual Experiences sexual and/or romantic attraction to objects or structures. For some, this can include strong emotional bonds or a sense of relationship… Identity & Community
• OMNISEXUAL Attracted to all genders, but unlike Pansexuality, gender can still be a factor in the attraction. An Omnisexual person might have different feelings… Identity & Community
• Omnisexual Similar to pansexual, but with a key difference: omnisexual people are attracted to all genders, but they *see* and recognize the gender of the perso… Identity & Community
• Out Being openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, or intersex. Culture & Concepts

P3 terms

• Pansexual A person emotionally and/or sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender. Identity
• Pansexual Attraction to people regardless of their gender. Often described as being attracted to "hearts, not parts," it emphasizes a person's identity over th… Identity & Community
• Polysexual Attraction to multiple, but not necessarily all, genders. Think of it as being on the multisexual spectrum somewhere between bisexual and pansexual. Identity & Community

Q4 terms

• QPOC Queer Person of Color. An identity term that specifically highlights the intersection of being both queer and a person of color. It's a term of solid… Identity & Community
• QPP Queerplatonic Partner. A relationship that blurs the lines between intense friendship and romantic partnership. A QPP involves a deep, committed bond… Sex & Relationships
• Queer Historically a slur, now reclaimed by many who identify beyond traditional gender categories and heteronormative norms. Some still find it offensive… Identity
• Queer The ultimate reclaimed umbrella term. Once a vicious slur, "queer" has been embraced as a defiant, political, and inclusive identity for anyone who i… Identity & Community

R1 term

• Reciprosexual You're not attracted to them until you know they're attracted to you first. It's a conditional attraction that turns on only in response to someone e… Identity & Community

S4 terms

• Sapiosexual Primarily attracted to intelligence or intellectual connection, often prioritizing mental stimulation over gender or physical appearance. Identity & Community
• Sapphic A beautifully poetic umbrella term for women who are attracted to other women, be they lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual. Named after the poet Sappho. Identity & Community
• Sexual orientation Each person’s capacity for profound affection, emotional/sexual attraction to, and intimate relations with individuals of the same, different, or mor… Core Concepts
• Straight / Heterosexual Describes attraction to a different gender, typically within the male/female binary. It is often the default setting society pushes on everyone. Identity & Community

T4 terms

• TGNC Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming. An inclusive umbrella term that covers both transgender people and anyone else who doesn't conform to traditio… Identity & Community
• Trans Umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or expression differs from sex assigned at birth. May include transsexual, transgender, cross-dres… Identity
• Transgender Term for people whose gender identity and/or expression differs from sex assigned at birth; often used broadly, overlapping with “trans.” Identity
• TS Transsexual. An older, more clinical term for a transgender person, particularly one who has undergone or desires to undergo medical transition. Many… Identity & Community