KinkFactor Dictionary
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A living glossary for queer language, consent culture and kink vocabulary. Search it, browse it by letter, or dive into a topic.
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A3 terms
- AKA Also Known As. In the digital wilderness of dating apps, this is your cue that someone's got an alter ego. Maybe it's their drag name, their online h… Slang & Culture
- ASAP As Soon As Possible. The universal signal for urgency, especially on hookup apps. When someone says they're looking ASAP, they mean they want you in… Slang & Culture
- ASL Age, Sex, Location. The holy trinity of old-school internet cruising. Before Grindr profiles laid it all out, you had to ask. It’s the quick and dirt… Slang & Culture
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D2 terms
- DDF Drug and Disease-Free. A common, if somewhat naive, statement on dating profiles. It's meant to signal a preference for sober sex and a clean bill of… Health & Safety
- DTF Down To Fuck. The three letters that cut through all the bullshit. This isn't about finding an LTR; it's the primal signal that someone is looking fo… Sex & Relationships
F2 terms
- F2F Face to Face. The moment of truth when you finally meet someone from the apps IRL (In Real Life). It's the transition from disembodied chat to an act… Sex & Relationships
- FT FaceTime. The pre-date screening process. A quick FT call can confirm that the person you're talking to isn't a Catfish and that you can actually hol… Slang & Culture
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I2 terms
- IC Incall. The opposite of Outcall. It means the sex worker or host is providing the location, and you have to travel to them. Sex & Relationships
- IMHO In My Humble Opinion. A classic piece of internet speak used to soften a statement. It's a way of offering your two cents without coming across as an… Slang & Culture
L2 terms
- LFG Looking for Group. A term borrowed from the gaming world (Gaymer) that has been adapted for seeking a group sex scenario. It's a less direct way of s… Sex & Relationships
- LOL Laughing Out Loud. The classic internet acronym that can mean anything from 'That was mildly amusing' to 'I am actively ignoring what you just said'.… Slang & Culture
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N2 terms
- NPNC No Pic, No Chat. A hard-and-fast rule on dating apps for people who are tired of talking to blank, anonymous profiles. It's a demand for basic transp… Slang & Culture
- NSA No Strings Attached. The quintessential agreement for modern casual sex. It means you’re here for a good time, not a long time. There's no expectatio… Sex & Relationships
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P2 terms
- PIC Picture. The currency of dating apps. 'Send Pic?' is the inevitable question. This can range from a face pic to a full-blown nude. The exchange of pi… Slang & Culture
- POV Point of View. A style of porn shot from the perspective of one of the participants. It's designed to make the viewer feel like they are part of the… Sex & Relationships
R2 terms
- RL Real Life. The world beyond the screen. The ultimate goal of most online interactions is to eventually take things to the RL. Slang & Culture
- RN Right Now. The even more urgent version of ASAP. If someone is looking RN, they are likely already naked and waiting for you to give them an ETA. Slang & Culture
T3 terms
- TBD To Be Determined. The non-committal answer to any logistical question. It's the verbal equivalent of a shrug emoji, often used when plans are still u… Slang & Culture
- TL;DR Too Long; Didn't Read. The internet's way of asking for a summary. It's what you put at the end of a long post to give people the gist, or what you c… Slang & Culture
- TW Trigger Warning. A heads-up that the content that follows might be distressing, particularly for people with trauma. It's a common courtesy online to… Slang & Culture
V2 terms
- VERS Versatile. The holy grail of the gay dating pool. A Vers guy is comfortable being either a Top or a Bottom, and sometimes even switching within the s… Sex & Relationships
- VGL Very Good Looking. A classic personal ad abbreviation. It's a subjective but direct way of stating your perceived level of attractiveness or what you… Sex & Relationships