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A4 terms

• Aftercare The vital "cool-down" period after intense sex or a BDSM scene. It's about checking in, cuddling, talking, and ensuring all partners feel safe and ca… Relationships & Intimacy
• AIDS Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome. This is what happens when HIV goes untreated and wrecks your immune system. Thanks to decades of activism (ACT-U… Health & Safety
• Anal Sex The act of inserting a penis, strap-on, or dildo into a partner's anus. Because this involves sensitive tissue, it requires enthusiastic consent, rel… Sex & Anatomy
• Anal Toys Any body-safe toy designed for anal play. This includes butt plugs (for short or long-term wear), anal beads, and dildos. Must have a flared base to… Gear & Wearables

B1 term

• BB Bareback. Sex without a condom. It's a high-stakes game that carries significant risk for STIs like HIV. For some, it's about intimacy; for others, i… Health & Safety

C2 terms

• CF Chem Friendly. The wink in a profile that says they're open to mixing sex with drugs (Chemsex). It’s the modern equivalent of asking if someone 'part… Health & Safety
• Cum (Semen) Play A fetish that involves semen ("cum"). This can include acts like "facials" (ejaculating on a partner), "creampies" (ejaculating inside the anus), or… Sex & Anatomy

D1 term

• DDF Drug and Disease-Free. A common, if somewhat naive, statement on dating profiles. It's meant to signal a preference for sober sex and a clean bill of… Health & Safety

G2 terms

• GHB Gamma-Hydroxybutyrate. A depressant drug often used in the Chemsex scene, known for increasing libido and euphoria. It's notoriously difficult to dos… Health & Safety
• Group Sex Any consensual sexual encounter with three or more people (e.g., a threesome or orgy). This requires a high level of communication to ensure *everyon… Sex & Anatomy

H1 term

• HIV Human Immunodeficiency Virus. The virus that causes AIDS. With modern medicine, an HIV+ diagnosis is no longer a death sentence. With treatment, peop… Health & Safety

K1 term

• KO Knockout. A very niche and high-risk form of Breath Play where the goal is to cause a partner to temporarily lose consciousness. This is an extreme e… Kink & BDSM

M1 term

• MDMA Also known as Ecstasy or Molly. A popular party drug that causes feelings of euphoria, empathy, and enhanced sensation. It's a common player in the C… Health & Safety

O2 terms

• Oral Sex (Cocksucking) Commonly known as a "blow job," this is the act of stimulating a partner's penis with the mouth. Clear consent and discussion about boundaries (like… Sex & Anatomy
• ORB Oral/Breath Play. A combination of oral sex and Breath Play (consensual choking or airflow restriction). This is an intense, high-risk activity that… Kink & BDSM

P2 terms

• PNP Party and Play. The intersection of sex and drug use, typically involving stimulants like methamphetamine (Tina) or GHB. It's a subculture focused on… Health & Safety
• PrEP Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis. A daily pill that is highly effective at preventing HIV. PrEP has been a game-changer for sexual health in the gay communit… Health & Safety

R1 term

• Rimming (Ass Worship) This is the act of using the mouth and tongue to stimulate a partner's anus. It's a common part of gay male sex and, like any act, requires clear con… Sex & Anatomy

S2 terms

• STDs Sexually Transmitted Diseases. The older, more stigmatizing term for STIs. The language has shifted to 'infections' because many are treatable or man… Health & Safety
• STIs Sexually Transmitted Infections. The modern, more accurate term for infections passed through sexual contact. Regular testing for STIs is a basic par… Health & Safety

T1 term

• TW Trigger Warning. A heads-up that the content that follows might be distressing, particularly for people with trauma. It's a common courtesy online to… Slang & Culture

U1 term

• U=U Undetectable = Untransmittable. The revolutionary, scientifically-proven fact that a person with HIV who is on effective treatment and has an undetec… Health & Safety