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A1 term

• Abrasion play Involves controlled scratching, scraping, or rough contact with skin to provoke sensation. Often paired with sensation play or pain play. Sensation

B5 terms

• Ball busting Striking, squeezing, or tormenting testicles — extreme form of pain play and submission. Sensation
• Ball Stretching A practice, often done over long periods, of using "ball stretchers" (metal or leather rings) to gradually lengthen the scrotum. This is a form of li… Practices & Activities
• Biting A form of "primal" or sensation play. This can range from gentle, affectionate nibbles (like kissing) to hard, painful bites that may leave marks. Practices & Activities
• Blindfolding Use of visual deprivation to heighten other senses. Often a gateway into deeper kink play. Sensation
• Brand obsession Focusing kink around specific brands, logos, or gear types — rooted in desire, identity, or aesthetic. Sensation

C9 terms

• Candle wax play Dripping hot wax for controlled pain — color, temperature, and placement matter. Sensation
• Chains Metal chains are a common BDSM tool. They can be used as heavy-duty restraints (bondage), dragged across the skin (sensation/temperature play), or ra… Gear & Wearables
• Clamps (Nipple, etc.) A common kink toy used for sensation play. Clamps restrict blood flow and create a "pinch" that many find pleasurable. Nipple clamps are most common,… Gear & Wearables
• Cling Film (Mummification) Common plastic wrap (like Saran wrap) used for mummification. It's wrapped tightly around the body, providing restraint and a unique, warm sensation.… Practices & Activities
• Clothespins A household item often used as a simple, low-cost clamp for nipples, balls, or other body parts. The spring provides a pinching sensation. They are a… Gear & Wearables
• Clover Clamps A specific type of BDSM clamp, often used for nipples, balls, or lips. They are known for their "pinching" sensation and the fact that they get *tigh… Gear & Wearables
• Cock Slapping A form of light CBT or "genital torture." It involves repeatedly slapping the penis and/or testicles, either with a hand or a light impact toy, to cr… Practices & Activities
• Cold object play Using metal, glass, or stone items — enhances physical contrast and sensory play. Sensation
• Cupping Ancient practice using glass or silicone cups to create suction. In kink, adds intensity to pain or visual marks. Sensation

D1 term

• Deprivation games Taking away vision, hearing, or control — magnifies anticipation and helplessness. Sensation

E3 terms

• E-Stim (Electro Play) Short for "electro-stimulation." This practice uses special devices (like a TENS unit or Violet Wand) to send mild electrical currents through the bo… Gear & Wearables
• E-Stim (General) Short for "electro-stimulation." This practice uses special devices (like a TENS unit or Violet Wand) to send mild electrical currents through the bo… Practices & Activities
• Electro play Use of mild to strong electrical currents for sensation, control, or stimulation. Involves devices like TENS units or violet wands. Sensation

F4 terms

• Figging A form of sensation play. A piece of peeled ginger is inserted into the anus, which creates an intense stinging/burning sensation as the body's moist… Extreme & Edge Play
• Fingernails (Scratching) A form of sensation or "primal" play. This can range from light, teasing scratches to harder, more intense scratching that leaves marks. Consent abou… Practices & Activities
• Fire Cupping A form of sensation play (borrowed from traditional medicine) where the air inside a glass cup is heated, then placed on the skin. As it cools, it cr… Extreme & Edge Play
• Fire Play An advanced sensation play involving fire. This does *not* mean setting someone on fire. It typically involves "fleshing" (lighting a small amount of… Extreme & Edge Play

G2 terms

• Genital Piercings Piercings on the genitals, such as a "Prince Albert" (PA), "Frenum," or "Guiche." These are done for aesthetics and/or to enhance sexual sensation fo… Fetish & Focus
• Gooning Deliberately entering a trance-like hyper-arousal state through prolonged edging and media fixation. Sensation

H2 terms

• Heightened breath play Deliberate control or restriction of breathing — risky and requires strong trust. Sensation
• Hot wax Dripping melted wax on the skin for sensation play. Temperature and candle type must be chosen carefully. Sensation

I1 term

• Impact Play A broad category for any play that involves striking the body. This includes spanking (hands), paddling (paddles), flogging (floggers), caning (canes… Practices & Activities

K1 term

• Knife Play A form of edge play that uses a knife for sensation (cold steel, dull edge) or psychological "fear" play. This is an advanced kink that requires imme… Extreme & Edge Play

M1 term

• Marks & bruises Intentional physical marks left as memory or proof — from spanking, biting, etc. Sensation

N5 terms

• Needle Play A form of sensation play involving the insertion of sterile, single-use (hypodermic or acupuncture) needles into the top layers of the skin. This is… Extreme & Edge Play
• Nipple Clamps A common kink toy used for sensation play. They restrict blood flow and create a "pinch" that many find pleasurable. They can range from light (cloth… Gear & Wearables
• Nipple Piercings A common genital-area piercing. In kink, they are often used as anchor points for nipple clamps, weights, or bondage tape, which can heighten sensati… Fetish & Focus
• Nipple play Stimulation of nipples through touch, clamps, wax, or suction. Highly variable sensitivity among individuals. Sensation
• Nipple torment Play focused on nipple pain or control — clamps, suction, flicking. A classic masochistic zone. Sensation

O1 term

• Overstimulation Pushing a body past orgasm or sensory limit — blends pleasure, discomfort, and surrender. Sensation

P1 term

• Post-orgasm torture Stimulating or torturing the body after orgasm — high sensitivity makes it extreme. Sensation

R1 term

• Riding Crops A type of impact toy, originally for horse riding. It consists of a handle, a stiff shaft, and a flexible "popper" at the end. It delivers a sharp, s… Gear & Wearables

S12 terms

• Sadism Erotic pleasure derived from inflicting pain, degradation, or fear. Can be physical or psychological. Sensation
• Sadomasochism (S&M) S&M is the umbrella term for the dynamic between a Sadist (one who enjoys giving consensual pain/sensation) and a Masochist (one who enjoys receiving… Core Dynamics & Roles
• Scent dominance Control via smell — sweat, underwear, armpits. Connects intimacy with hierarchy. Sensation
• Sensation Play A type of play that explores senses *other* than impact. This includes temperature (ice, hot wax), texture (feathers, pinwheels), or sensory deprivat… Practices & Activities
• Sensory overload Layering stimuli — sound, touch, visuals — to create overwhelming erotic intensity. Sensation
• Sensual Play A type of play focused on heightening *all* five senses. This is often a slow, gentle form of kink involving feathers, oil, blindfolds, music, or foo… Practices & Activities
• Sensualism A type of play focused on heightening *all* five senses. This is often a slow, gentle form of kink involving feathers, oil, blindfolds, music, or foo… Practices & Activities
• Shock play Using electrostimulation devices to deliver shocks for pain, muscle tension, or orgasm play. Sensation
• Sounding (Urethral Play) The act of inserting smooth, sterile, medical-grade objects (called "sounds") into the urethra. This is an advanced sensation play that many find ple… Extreme & Edge Play
• Spitting Used symbolically or as a form of humiliation/marking. Can be ritualistic or primal. Sensation
• Subspace A common term for a "trance-like" or altered state of consciousness that a submissive (or even a Dominant) may enter during an intense BDSM scene. It… Core Dynamics & Roles
• Suction Using suction cups or vacuums on the skin for sensation, swelling, or aesthetic effect. Sensation

T4 terms

• Tactile fetish Arousal from specific textures or materials — silk, fur, latex, metal, etc. Sensation
• Temperature play Play with hot or cold — ice, wax, warm tools. Stimulates nerve endings and emotional response. Sensation
• TENS Unit A TENS (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) unit is a medical device co-opted for kink. It sends mild electrical pulses through sticky pads… Gear & Wearables
• Tickling A form of playful "torture" or sensation play. When used in a BDSM context with restraints, it can be an incredibly intense and psychological experie… Practices & Activities

V2 terms

• Vacuum Pumping Using a manual or electric pump to create a vacuum seal on a body part, most commonly the penis, balls, or nipples. This draws blood to the area, inc… Practices & Activities
• Violet Wand A specific "e-stim" toy that uses a glass wand to conduct a high-voltage, low-amperage current. It creates a "zapping" or "stinging" sensation on the… Gear & Wearables

W3 terms

• Wartenberg Pinwheels A medical device with a rotating wheel of sharp (but not cutting) pins. When rolled across the skin, it creates an intense, "prickly" sensation. It i… Gear & Wearables
• Wax (Play) A form of temperature and sensation play using melted wax from special, low-temperature candles. This creates a mix of heat and light stinging sensat… Practices & Activities
• Wax Play A form of temperature and sensation play using melted wax from special, low-temperature candles (never use regular candles). The sensation is a mix o… Practices & Activities