KinkFactor Dictionary
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A living glossary for queer language, consent culture and kink vocabulary. Search it, browse it by letter, or dive into a topic.
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A3 terms
- ACE Short for asexual. An identity for someone who feels little to no sexual attraction. It's a whole spectrum, not just a switch that's flipped 'off'. I… Identity & Community
- Aceflux An orientation where your position on the asexual spectrum fluctuates. Some days you might feel completely asexual, other days more demisexual or gra… Identity & Community
- Anal Sex The act of inserting a penis, strap-on, or dildo into a partner's anus. Because this involves sensitive tissue, it requires enthusiastic consent, rel… Sex & Anatomy
B6 terms
- B&D Bondage and Discipline. A slice of the BDSM pie that focuses on restraint and rules. It's a milder entry point for many, more about the psychological… Kink & BDSM
- BB Bareback. Sex without a condom. It's a high-stakes game that carries significant risk for STIs like HIV. For some, it's about intimacy; for others, i… Health & Safety
- BBC Big Black Cock. A term that's both a descriptor and a heavily loaded fetish category in porn and online. It often comes with a whole suite of racial… Sex & Relationships
- BDSM The big, scary-sounding acronym that’s really just a catch-all for a whole universe of kink. It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submissi… Kink & BDSM
- BJ Blow Job. The cornerstone of non-procreative sex. If you don't know what this is, you've probably stumbled into the wrong corner of the internet. It'… Sex & Relationships
- BTM Bottom. The partner who takes the receiving role in anal sex. It's not about being weak or passive; a Power Bottom can run the whole show from below.… Sex & Relationships
C4 terms
- CBT Cock and Ball Torture. A corner of the BDSM world where the family jewels are the main event. This practice plays with the intense vulnerability and… Kink & BDSM
- CC Cock Cage. A Chastity Device used in BDSM to lock up a penis. It's a tool for orgasm denial, control, and teasing, often worn for extended periods. T… Kink & BDSM
- CF Chem Friendly. The wink in a profile that says they're open to mixing sex with drugs (Chemsex). It’s the modern equivalent of asking if someone 'part… Health & Safety
- CPL Couple. Two people in a relationship, often looking for a third. On an app, this signals you're not just messaging one person. Be prepared for a grou… Sex & Relationships
D4 terms
- Demisexual A person on the ace spectrum who only develops sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond has been formed. The bond comes first, then the attrac… Identity & Community
- DP Double Penetration. The act of being penetrated by two penises (or toys) at once, typically anally and/or vaginally. It's a common porn trope and a l… Sex & Relationships
- DTF Down To Fuck. The three letters that cut through all the bullshit. This isn't about finding an LTR; it's the primal signal that someone is looking fo… Sex & Relationships
- Dyke Originally a derogatory slur for a masculine or butch lesbian, this word has been powerfully reclaimed by the community as a term of pride and identi… Identity & Community
F2 terms
- FF Fist Fucking. An advanced form of anal play that involves inserting an entire hand into the anus. This requires a huge amount of trust, relaxation, c… Kink & BDSM
- FWB Friends with Benefits. The messy, beautiful, and often complicated space between friendship and a relationship. You hang out, you trust each other, a… Sex & Relationships
G6 terms
- Gender A social construct assigning cultural and social expectations based on assigned sex. Core Concepts
- GGG Good, Giving, and Game. A concept popularized by sex columnist Dan Savage. It's the ideal attitude for a sexual partner: be good at it, be generous w… Sex & relationships
- GH Glory Hole. A hole in a wall or partition, often in a public restroom or adult bookstore, used for anonymous oral sex. It's a classic, seedy cruising… Sex & Relationships
- Glory Hole A hole in a partition (often in an adult bookstore or sex club) that allows for anonymous sexual acts, typically oral sex, with the person on the oth… Practices & Activities
- GR Grindr. The infamous geosocial networking app that revolutionized gay hookup culture. It’s a chaotic marketplace of torsos, Stats, and unsolicited Pi… Slang & Culture
- Graysexual Inhabiting the "gray area" on the Asexual spectrum. A graysexual person might feel sexual attraction very rarely, only under specific circumstances,… Identity & Community
H2 terms
- H&H High and Horny. The state of being that fuels many a late-night PNP session. It's the potent combination of being under the influence of drugs (Chems… Health & Safety
- Heteroflexible Mostly straight. A label for someone who primarily dates the opposite gender but is open to the occasional same-gender fun or connection. Identity & Community
I2 terms
- IC Incall. The opposite of Outcall. It means the sex worker or host is providing the location, and you have to travel to them. Sex & Relationships
- Intersex People born with sex characteristics (anatomy, hormones, chromosomes, etc.) that do not fit typical definitions of male or female. “Intersex” is an u… Identity
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L2 terms
- Lesbian A woman who is romantically and/or sexually attracted to other women. A core identity with a rich history of community, culture, and activism. Identity & Community
- LFG Looking for Group. A term borrowed from the gaming world (Gaymer) that has been adapted for seeking a group sex scenario. It's a less direct way of s… Sex & Relationships
M2 terms
- M4M Men for Men. A classification used in personal ads and on some apps to specify that you are a man seeking another man. A basic, functional tag from t… Sex & Relationships
- Monosexual An umbrella term for anyone who is only attracted to one gender. This includes people who identify as straight, gay, or lesbian. Identity & Community
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O2 terms
- Oral Sex (Cocksucking) Commonly known as a "blow job," this is the act of stimulating a partner's penis with the mouth. Clear consent and discussion about boundaries (like… Sex & Anatomy
- ORB Oral/Breath Play. A combination of oral sex and Breath Play (consensual choking or airflow restriction). This is an intense, high-risk activity that… Kink & BDSM
P4 terms
- Pegging A specific term for when a person (of any gender) uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate a man anally. This is a common practice in both queer and straig… Sex & Anatomy
- PNP Party and Play. The intersection of sex and drug use, typically involving stimulants like methamphetamine (Tina) or GHB. It's a subculture focused on… Health & Safety
- POV Point of View. A style of porn shot from the perspective of one of the participants. It's designed to make the viewer feel like they are part of the… Sex & Relationships
- PrEP Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis. A daily pill that is highly effective at preventing HIV. PrEP has been a game-changer for sexual health in the gay communit… Health & Safety
R2 terms
- Reciprosexual You're not attracted to them until you know they're attracted to you first. It's a conditional attraction that turns on only in response to someone e… Identity & Community
- Rimming (Ass Worship) This is the act of using the mouth and tongue to stimulate a partner's anus. It's a common part of gay male sex and, like any act, requires clear con… Sex & Anatomy
S5 terms
- S&M Sadism and Masochism. A core component of BDSM, this is the dynamic of deriving pleasure from inflicting (Sadism) or receiving (Masochism) pain or hu… Kink & BDSM
- Sex Classification typically assigned at birth (male/female) based on external anatomy; in reality a combination of chromosomes, hormones, reproductive o… Core Concepts
- Sex (Sexual Activity) A broad term for any activity intended to provide sexual pleasure. This can range from kissing and masturbation to oral, anal, or kink-based play. Th… Core Dynamics & Roles
- Strap-on (Pegging) A dildo attached to a harness, allowing a partner to penetrate another anally. When a man is penetrated by a partner using a strap-on, it is commonly… Gear & Wearables
- Swallowing (Cum) The act of swallowing semen at the end of oral sex. This is a common personal preference or fetish. Like any act involving bodily fluids, it requires… Sex & Anatomy
T2 terms
- Throat Fucking This is an advanced form of oral sex ("deep-throating") where a partner's penis reaches the back of the throat. It's an intense sensation that can tr… Extreme & Edge Play
- TT Tit Torture. A form of BDSM play focused on the nipples. This can involve clamps, clothespins, biting, or twisting. It's an intense form of sensation… Kink & BDSM
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W2 terms
- WAP Wet-Ass Pussy. A term from a Cardi B song that has been enthusiastically adopted by the queer community. While its origins are heterosexual, its cele… Slang & Culture
- WS Water Sports. A kink involving urine. This can be anything from urinating on a partner (Golden Shower) to drinking it. It's a common fetish that play… Kink & BDsm